Brit who ditched UK for Spain says 1 thing confuses her

A British woman who upped sticks and moved to Spain two years ago is still finding certain things about her new life confusing – especially when it comes to food. Many UK citizens choose to leave the country in favour of somewhere new, with Spain a popular choice thanks to its reliably warm weather, lower cost of living, better quality of life, and a more relaxed pace.

British mum Susie swapped the grey skies so commonly associated with Great Britain for life in the coveted Mediterranean climate. Despite moving two and a half years ago, there’s still a few cultural differences that catch her off guard. Like many people, Susie has taken to social media to document her experiences and in a recent video posted to TikTok, she shared her confusion regarding “unspoken rules” around food.

Susie began: “There seem to be all these unspoken rules about what you can eat and when you can eat them, and I’ve lived here for two and a half years and I still haven’t figured it out.

“I was talking to my husband today about what to have for lunch and I suggested, ‘well, we could have puré de calabacín (a Spanish vegetable soup with zucchini, potatoes, onions, and leeks) for first course, and then we could have ensaladilla rusa (potato salad) for second course.’

“And he’s like, ‘no, those are two first courses – we can’t have two first courses, can we?’ And I’m thinking, ‘oh, I didn’t realise that they had to specifically be for first courses. Can’t we just have one, then have the other?’ But no.”

Susie pointed out how this differs to the UK where meals including a first and second course are more commonly associated with “a special occasion”, and day-to-day evening meals are usually a single course with “everything all on one plate”, possibly followed by dessert. She confessed Spain’s so-called “rules” about what’s appropriate to eat and at what time has been “really difficult to understand”.

Susie went on: “I’ve been told there’s a general rule to help figure this out; if you use a spoon, it’s a first course, and if you use a knife and fork, it’s a second course – but what about ensaladilla rusa? I mean, I use a fork to eat that but apparently, that’s a first course.

“And what about croquetas (croquettes)? I mean, you use your hands to eat those, don’t you? So where do they go? How do you categorise a first course and a second course? I need to know.”

She then shared her confusion about the popular rice dish paella, which “you can’t eat for dinner in Spain”, and wondered whether this applied to all rice dishes. Susie added: “It’s these little kinds of things that no one really prepares you for when you move abroad, and I think you’ll only truly understand when you actually live in the place for a while. I’ve lived in Spain for two years and I’m still figuring everything out as I go along.”

In the comments section, people were keen to share their thoughts and advice. One TikTok user pointed out: “You have funny things too… like eggs are only for breakfast!”

Another said: “I haven’t figured it out either, don’t stress about it lol.” A third said: “Dinner is just usually lighter. Generally, second courses include a fish or a meat. Honestly, you can do whatever you agree on. We only do two courses on weekends.”

And another added: “Generally, in Spain, the second course is the most elaborate, usually a meat or fish dish. Ensaladilla rusa, for example, is a ‘tapa’ or starter meant to be shared with the whole table, just like croquetas. And yes, dishes that are typically eaten with a spoon, like soups and purées, are the first course.”