‘I’m a dog expert – these 11 signs prove they love you’

Dogs have long been known as humankind’s best friends, and the bond between dogs and their owners is nothing short of extraordinary. Research by Canine Cottages has shown that a dog’s heart rate increases by 46.2% when being told “I love you”. This reinforces what dog lovers have always felt in their hearts – our canine companions truly do love us.

With Valentine’s Day approaching, to help dog owners better understand their furry friends’ expressions of love, Dr Emma Scales-Theobald, canine Behaviourist and resident dog expert at Canine Cottages, has explained the gestures that mean “I love you” in dog language, from telling tail wags to heartfelt cuddles. Firstly, dogs that adore you will often seek physical affection as a way to bond and feel closer to you. Petting stimulates the release of oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone”, in both you and your dog, reinforcing your bond.

Pay attention to where your dog enjoys being stroked – some prefer behind the ears, while others love a gentle chest rub. Tail wags, soft eyes, and relaxed body language are signs they’re enjoying the interaction.

If you stop giving them attention, some dogs will nudge your hand or arm with their nose to encourage more petting or cuddles. This is their way of saying “Don’t stop!” A nudge can be playful, persistent, or gentle, depending on their personality. Responding positively to these nudges reassures them that their affection is reciprocated.

Dogs are social creatures, and being close to you – even without direct contact – shows their trust and affection. For some dogs, sitting on your lap is their ultimate display of love, while others may prefer to lie nearby. Watch for their choice of proximity, as this often reflects their comfort level and love for you.

When dogs lean into you, they’re looking for closeness and security. This behaviour often occurs when they’re seeking reassurance or simply enjoying the physical connection. A dog sitting on your feet might also be a sign of affection and a subtle way of ‘claiming’ you as theirs.

Dogs that roll onto their backs and expose their bellies are showing a high level of trust and affection. A wagging tail and relaxed posture typically mean they’re asking for a belly rub as a sign of love. However, if their ears are pinned back, their tail is tucked, or their body is tense, they may be showing submission or anxiety rather than seeking affection. Always read the entire body language for context.

A dog that loves you will want to be near you, often following you from room to room. This behaviour, sometimes called ‘Velcro dog syndrome’, is especially common in breeds with strong loyalty traits. It’s their way of saying, “You’re my person, and I want to be where you are.” Meanwhile, when dogs bring you their toys, they’re not just inviting you to play; they’re also sharing something valuable to them. This behaviour is a sign of trust and affection, particularly in breeds such as Labradors and Golden Retrievers. Celebrate this gesture by engaging in play or praising them for their generosity.

The ‘play bow’ – lowered front end, raised hindquarters, wagging tail – is a universal invitation to have fun. When a dog does this, they’re expressing excitement and joy in your presence. Responding with play strengthens your bond and keeps your dog mentally and physically stimulated.

Jumping is a natural way for dogs to greet people they love. It allows them to get closer to your face, which is their way of connecting. While it’s an affectionate gesture, jumping can be unsafe, especially with large dogs or small children. Training your dog to greet calmly ensures their affection is expressed appropriately.

Dogs are most vulnerable when sleeping, so choosing to rest near you shows they feel completely safe and comfortable. Some dogs may snuggle on your lap, while others prefer sleeping just outside your reach. Either way, this behaviour is a testament to their love and trust.

Many dogs will lick you as a sign that they love you. Licking releases endorphins and dopamine, making them feel happy and relaxed. However, if they do it obsessively, it could be a sign they are in pain. Licking isn’t always a sign of love and could be a sign of anxiety. Watch the dog’s other body language to tell the difference. They are anxiously licking their ears back, showing whale eye, and are tense.

Dr Scales-Theobald has emphasised the importance of paying attention to body language to differentiate between loving gestures and signs of stress or unease: “Understanding your dog’s behaviour can deepen your bond and help you respond to their emotional needs. Knowing the difference between affection and stress signals ensures you’re tuned into their well-being.”